Having the ability to acknowledge what you’re feeling and why are you feeling that way is self-awareness. It involves analyzing your thoughts, stress, and emotions and is very important for personal development.
Many people believe they are self-aware but actually, only 10-15% are in sync with themselves.
While people aren’t convinced that self-awareness is not an essential trait, it is very easy to develop if you commit to it.
One thing that should always be kept in mind is that self-awareness is a way of knowing yourself and choosing a better alternative to react to things. It is not a way to bottle up your emotions and block yourself from feeling it. You should feel every emotion as they come. Embrace them and let yourself acknowledge them. Self-awareness is about controlling the reactions that are not useful for you or rather just impulse behavior which can be regretful in the future.
It is very normal to feel extremely angry or sad, you should not stop yourself from feeling it. You can control your behavior when you’re feeling such a way because they are temporary feelings, you’re not going to be angry or sad all the time. But what you do when you’re into those feelings can make a huge impact on your life. It can hurt someone very close to you or it can be something that you will regret all your life. Self-awareness is about accepting those feelings and still acting positively to your benefit only.
Being self-aware can bring drastic changes in your life and how you respond to certain situations. You will feel happier and liberated and you’ll no longer be controlled by your emotions. Some of the ways how self-awareness influence your life is –
Controlling your reaction towards certain behavior
When you’re self-aware, you can disrupt negative patterns of behavior. This is because you know you’re feeling an intense emotion and you know how you would react to it. Instead of doing something out of impulse, as most people do, you’ll be in control of your actions. Be mindful of what you do or say when you’re angry or frustrated. It will also help you control your anger because you are aware of what makes you angry, making you avoid the situation or handling it better.
This also makes you more understanding because you know why certain people behave in certain ways. This will make it easy for you to have control over your reaction towards unpleasant situations. Your emotions no longer overtake your logical thinking. You will experience a lot more calm and peaceful life.
Be more versatile
Creating a need or desire in yourself outside of pure instinct can be a powerful tool. You are aware of the things that motivate you to do better or to take up certain tasks. You are also aware of what you don’t like to do and what tasks you have never taken up.
Use this as an efficient mechanism to make yourself do the thing you normally wouldn’t do by motivating yourself with things that create a sense of joy or enthusiasm in you. It will help you stretch out of your comfort zone and explore your interest areas along with improving your capabilities
Control over temporary feelings
Self-awareness teaches you a lot of lessons, one of them is, it allows you to let opinions or insults flow through you without feeling attacked.
When someone tries to bully you, abuse you, or say hurtful things, you don’t take it to your heart. Instead, you understand that these words or actions are a result of the other person’s self and not a reflection of you.
You know that those feelings are temporary and you don’t cling onto them. It is in your hands to let something affect you, no one can anger you if you don’t let them.
All the pain a person feels is exactly what they have chosen to feel and it will last as long as they choose to allow it to. Broaden your perspective and think about why the other person is trying to do what they are doing. Most of the time, it’s not about you, it’s about them. Understanding this will make it a lot easier for you to be calm and happier.
You know that everything will happen eventually and you cannot control the future. You make peace with the fact that everything happens for a reason and you are in control of how you react to that situation. You will be in full control of your emotions and feelings towards a situation, therefore not worrying about what’s going o happen next. You endeavor in all things to ground yourself and be present in the moment. You live your life to the fullest and in present. This leads to a happier, fulfilling, and peaceful life experience.
There are mainly 3 stages of developing self-awareness.
1. Recognizing what you feel
Observing your emotions and feelings over a while, acknowledging what you are feeling. It may be sad, happy, angry, frustrated. This is the first stage of developing self-awareness. Most people don’t have any idea how they are feeling when asked about it. You should be able to understand the emotions you’re going through. Are you feeling successful or failure?
2. Why are you feeling a certain way?
After understanding what you’re feeling, you need to focus on why are you feeling such types of emotions. What makes you feel happy, sad, angry. How are the circumstances around you affect you? Why do they make you angry, sad, happy, or anything? What do you think like a success or failure? What makes it so. These are very important questions to ask yourself. You get to know a lot about yourself when all these questions get answered. This is the second stage of developing self-awareness.
3. Know your values
This is the third and very crucial stage of inculcating self-awareness in yourself. You should be able to understand your values. What are your standards and thought process towards good or bad situations? Why do you label a certain situation good or bad which eventually affects your reaction towards it? How do you measure success or failure? How do you measure yourself to be happy or sad about a situation? These are the questions that need to be addressed only when you go through the first 2 stages.
After this stage, you will be completely aware of how your brain works towards the situation and how can you control it in your favor.
While these stages are very helpful, everyone has their journey. Also, never forget the pillars to self-awareness i.e. Positive self-worth, self-confidence, and self-love.
Let us know in the comment section how self-awareness helped you deal with critical situations in your life. 🙂