Self-confidence is something that we build up over the years. Nobody is born with a bucket full of confidence to flaunt. We all have to go through this journey of finding & accepting ourselves the way we are. The way you view yourself makes or breaks the situation.
When you accept yourself and all your flaws, you’re on your path to develop confidence.
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Below are some of the easy ways you can amplify your confidence. Keep in mind that none of this will be useful if you don’t believe in yourself. They might be a quick fix but you have to do the inner work too.
Several studies show that when you dress up and try to look good, your confidence automatically jumps up. This is because when you look good, you feel good about yourself & hence you’re more confident. If you’re having a bad day, dress up. If you have an important meeting or interview that you’re nervous about, dress up. Dressing well also helps in increasing productivity & improving impression in front of people.
Take care of yourself. Get massages, facials, go for spa dates, or have a long bath at home. Pampering yourself is another way of maintaining your mental and physical well being. You’re more relaxed & happy when you pamper yourself. Self-love plays a huge part in self-confidence.
Pay attention to your posture
Don’t slouch. Sit straight, walk confidently. This one is something I’m also struggling with but there have been instances where improving my posture or simply straightening up my back made a huge difference in my confidence levels. Simple posture correction can not only make you look confident but will also make you FEEL more confident about yourself. It’s a quick fix whenever you need one.
When you smile, your brain releases “happy hormones” that instantly uplifts your mood. Afterall smiling is an emotion to express that you are happy, which in turn makes you look more confident. So smile as much as you can (not in a creepy way though). It is a mood lifter for everyone around you.
Another way to boost confidence is to be prepared for everything. Get more knowledge, update your skills, improve your lifestyle. It is a long term method but it also permanently improves your confidence because you are a different person after that. You are confident because you know things better than people. When you work on yourself it gives you a good feeling about yourself. You know you’re getting better and ahead in life.
Learn to deal with failure
Everyone fails in life, sometimes you have to go through failure to succeed in life. Life tests you in many ways, one is a failure, it is up to you how you deal with it. To boost confidence, accept failures gracefully. Don’t turn bitter about it, see where you went wrong and move on. Believe in yourself that you can get over it, do better than before and you are capable of much more. When you finally start seeing failures as lessons and not roadblocks, nothing can affect your confidence.
Start working out
Working out for even 20 minutes a day can drastically improve your confidence. You set realistic and attainable goals while exercising (such as 10 push-ups a day), so when you achieve these goals it makes you feel successful. Don’t forget it also improves your body image. So, enhances your self-esteem.
Use powerful words for yourself
Recite or shout 5 affirmations in the morning daily for yourself. Use words that make you feel that you are in control of yourself. When you do think positively about yourself, you feel confident about yourself too. Use power words like – I’m brave. I am courageous. I trust myself. I have faith in myself. I am smart and capable.
Get to know yourself
Spend time with yourself. Get to know why you are this way. Why do you have a hard time feeling good about yourself and feeling confident? Does it have to do with anything in your past? Unless you don’t know yourself fully, you’ll never be able to have confidence. So do the deep thinking and evaluation. Know why you are this way, so you can deal with them in a better way. It will help you learn a thing or two about yourself.
Try something spontaneous
Do something out of your character. Do things that you can never imagine yourself doing, something unpredictable for you. For instance, if you’re an introvert, go to many parties, engage with people, dance freely, or try adventure sports. Or if you’re an extrovert, try going on a trip alone, or just having a meal by yourself without your friends. It will automatically make you feel good about yourself. This is because you did something that is never expected out of you. You stepped out of your comfort zone and you succeeded too ( there may be failures too but don’t let them pull you down).
Don’t be harsh on yourself. Even if you mess up, it’s okay. One or two mistakes don’t define you. Nor should it affect how you feel about yourself. Trust yourself no matter what.
Make eye contact
Whenever you’re talking to someone, maintain eye contact. This will not only make you look confident but also make the other person feel that you’re interested to talk to them. Establishes a connection with the people you meet.
Gain control over your thoughts
When you’re low on self-esteem, it is very easy to get caught up in negative thoughts that pull you down. They do nothing but harm your confidence more. So learn to deal with them in a better way. Have control over your thoughts, so they don’t dominate you. Whenever you feel like you’re getting sucked into that hole, think of one positive thing or something you’re grateful for.
Sometimes, fake it.
This is not really a piece of great advice but it works for a lot of people. So fake it till you make it. Sometimes, you may not know anything but if you look confident, you can pull off anything you want.
Have a badass playlist
You could have a playlist full of songs that boosts your esteem. There are plenty of songs that put you in a good mood. Make a playlist and listen to it whenever you’re feeling low or just before an interview or meeting.
Talk to people
Engage with people, as much as you can. The more you talk to people, the more comfortable you are in public. When you’re comfortable you’re your natural self and more confident.
Accept your flaws
In the end, we’re all humans ( unless you want to be friends with pets, they’re easier to be with actually). Everyone is flawed. No one is perfect, it all comes down to how you deal with it. The sooner you accept yourself the way you are, the easier it will be for you to feel confident. Let go of the need to please people. Also, don’t try to be someone else to feel good about yourself. Be your authentic self, embrace yourself, confidence will come to you eventually.
Most importantly, what you think about yourself is all that matters. You should be happy with the way you are, others can adjust.